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		<title>There&#8217;s No Time Like Today &#8211; How breast cancer helped coach Karen Maycey claim her dream</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you&#8217;re looking to reclaim your inner space this month, Karen&#8217;s luscious Walkingspirit Retreat runs June 26th to July 3rd in Tuscany, Italy. See full details at the end of this article to find out how to book and receive a discount as one of Lynn&#8217;s subscribers.
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em><img class="alignleft" style="margin: 0px 10px;" title="Karen Maycey" src="http://spiritauthors.com/images/ezine/KarenMaycey.jpg" alt="Karen Maycey" width="158" height="108" /><strong>If you&#8217;re looking to reclaim your inner space this month, Karen&#8217;s luscious Walkingspirit Retreat runs June 26th to July 3rd in Tuscany, Italy. See full details at the end of this article to find out how to book and receive a discount as one of Lynn&#8217;s subscribers.</strong></em></p>
<p>When Karen Maycey (pictured above) changed careers to become a coach in 2005, she was asked a simple question: &#8220;What is your dream?&#8221; Karen replied quickly, saying, &#8220;My dream is to run a retreat in the mountains!&#8221;</p>
<p>She had first had this dream when she was working as a tour guide in the Austrian Alps. During that period of her life, Karen had a successful and exciting career as a guide for long haul and adventure holidays. She had taken groups to the Great Wall of China, through the US National Parks, and countless times through New Zealand and Australia. And throughout those times, she kept dreaming of creating her own retreat-not one that was defined by the tour companies that hired her-which would incorporate yoga, walking, being in inspirational surroundings in the mountains (her favourite place) and good quality home-cooked food.</p>
<p>But the fact she was so successful at her job actually proved to be a distraction to Karen, and over time this dream got somewhat forgotten.</p>
<p>But when her coaching trainers asked the question, &#8220;What is your dream?&#8221;, the dream reappeared. And this time, she knew her mountain retreat would also include coaching.</p>
<p>But while the picture of the dream became clearer in Karen&#8217;s mind, life took over, and once again the dream got pushed into the background of her life. She says, &#8220;The dream sort of &#8216;hung around&#8217; but it was semi-forgotten.&#8221;</p>
<p>In 2006, Karen she met a man named Verran, who was at that time a marketing director of private company. Soon, the two became a couple. Like Karen, Verran loved the mountains and the great outdoors, but his job offered little opportunity to live his passion. He had a dream to start a new company that incorporated his love for the outdoors and his work with businesses. Karen encouraged and supported him to follow his heart, and Verran resigned from his job. He soon started a company called &#8220;Outside Insights&#8221;, where he works as a walking guide taking businesses into the outdoors for team building, problem solving and personal growth. But Karen&#8217;s own dream was still not yet manifesting,</p>
<p>Then, April 2007 she took a course called Awakened Wisdom with Patrick Ryan where one of the tasks was to create a &#8220;mandala&#8221; envisioning her dreams for the future and how she wanted to &#8220;be&#8221; in the world. Over and over again, the theme of retreats kept popping up, along with being open-hearted, tapping into cosmic love, being a shining star, and being a catalyst for change and an inspiration. She was inspired by the words of Marianne Williamson that spoke of allowing one&#8217;s light to shine, and that it didn&#8217;t serve anyone for her to hide away. In making this mandala, Karen knew it was time to start being that shining star.</p>
<p>Astonishingly, within weeks of coming to that realisation, she was called by a company called &#8220;The Big Stretch&#8221; for an interview, and was subsequently hired. &#8220;The Big Stretch&#8221; was very close to her dream, as every gave her the opportunity to lead personal development courses for small groups that involved a &#8220;full on&#8221; week of coaching and walking in mountains of Spain. She felt this new job &#8220;semi-satisfied&#8221; her dream, but the bigger dream was still on the back burner. But all of it was slowly building up to the experience she truly wanted to create, and helped to give her the confidence she could do it.</p>
<p>But then, things changed.</p>
<p>In May 2008, Karen noticed a lump in her left breast. Shortly thereafter she went for an operation and her first diagnosis. At age 37, Karen had grade-2 breast cancer.<br />
Karen was filled with shock and disbelief. How could she have cancer? She had always been so healthy and health conscious. She was young, fit, active, sporty and spent a lot of time outdoors. How could this happen?</p>
<p>But after the initial shock, she got down to dealing with the situation. After all, this was a matter of life and death. But Karen soon realised it was not so simple. She realised that deciding upon a treatment regime had to be something that matched her philosophy in life. Trusting her intuition, and frequently needing to hold true to her convictions in the face of advice she was receiving from her NHS doctors, Karen decided not to do chemotherapy, and embarked on a naturopathic route to healing. She felt her healing could only really happen if she worked in a way she herself believed.</p>
<p>Karen says, &#8220;I think what matters is that you believe in the choices you are making.&#8221;</p>
<p>She spent more than a year on an intense 5-hour a day regime that included detox and supplements, costing her thousands of pounds.</p>
<p>And all through the process, she kept saying to herself, &#8220;When I get better, I&#8217;ll do this or I&#8217;ll do that&#8221; But while her treatments seemed to be working well, and she began to look more healthy and vibrant than she did before the cancer, whenever her test results came back from the lab, the doctors never said, &#8220;Your cancer is gone forever.&#8221; Instead, they would always say, there is more work to do. It seemed like everything in her life was put &#8220;on hold&#8221; while she focussed on her cancer.</p>
<p>But then, over the Christmas holiday in 2009, things changed again.</p>
<p>She and Verran were on holiday on the La Vacchio farm in a valley in northern Italy. They spent many hours talking together about the experience of the past year and their vision for the future. Looking at the beautiful surroundings, Karen felt a shift within her. Suddenly, she realised how long she had been delaying her dream, year after year. But now she saw it was time to start living in the now. If she kept using other things as excuses to delay her dreams, they might never come true. And if she simply put her dreams on hold while she had cancer, she might even die before she had had the chance to live life fully.</p>
<p>In one instant, she shifted from a &#8216;When I get better then I&#8217;ll do&#8230;&#8221; attitude, to a &#8216;Go for it!&#8217; attitude. It was time to do her retreat&#8211;NOW.</p>
<p>And in the serendipitous fashion of the Universe, no sooner had she made this shift, the owners of the farm asked her and Verran if they would be interested in running a retreat on their farm! So all of a sudden they had their venue sorted, without any effort.<br />
Karen&#8217;s entire life has changed since then. She lives life fully and makes the most of every moment. She didn&#8217;t do this last year when she was focussing on her illness. There&#8217;s no more waiting for tomorrow, no matter what the situation might be&#8211;even when you have cancer.</p>
<p>So now, Karen wants to share her dream with the world. She says, &#8220;I&#8217;m really looking forward to showing others that self&#8211;indulgence&#8211;this lovely thing-is actually a gift for the sake of their happiness and health. I want people to have a gorgeous time reconnecting with nature and themselves, chilling out, and recharging their batteries.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;What I want people to gain from the retreat is to know they matter&#8211;that they are important&#8211;and that they can choose their attitude in every moment. The retreat is an opportunity to kick-start loving life and to shift from deferring one&#8217;s dreams to being in now. The yoga, coaching, walking, wonderful food and beautiful surroundings will all bring that. It&#8217;s all about being in the present and going for what you want.&#8221;</p>
<p>&#8220;In a way, that&#8217;s the secret to life,&#8221; she adds.</p>
<p>WALKINGSPIRIT RETREAT<br />
Date: June 26-July 3, 2010 (7 days)<br />
Place: La Vacchio Retreat (in valley north of Luca, Tuscany, Italy<br />
Retreat Leaders: Karen Maycey (coaching), Verran Townsend (walking guide), Lisa Jones (yoga)<br />
Agenda: Coaching, Yoga, Walking, organic food, relaxing and fun!<br />
There will be group coaching every day 1-2 hours, and the opportunity to have one 1-to-1 session of either coaching or yoga during the week.<br />
Cost: £995 (including accommodation and food)<br />
You can get £25 off to cost of the retreat if you say  &#8220;Lynn sent me&#8221; when you book!</p>
<p>To get your discount call 0161 928 8179 (UK)<br />
or email karen at: <a href="Karen@walkingspirit.co.uk">Karen@walkingspirit.co.uk </a></p>
<p>There is no deadline to book, BUT there are only a few spaces left.</p>
<p>More information:<br />
Web: <a href="http://walkingspirit.co.uk">http://walkingspirit.co.uk</a><br />
Blog: <a href="http://wallkspirit.wordpress.com">http://wallkspirit.wordpress.com</a><br />
Fan page: <a href="http://www.facebook.com/pages/Walkingspirit/123408144354924">http://www.facebook.com/pages/Walkingspirit/123408144354924</a><br />
Retreat Venue:<a href="http://lavacchio.com"> http://lavacchio.com</a></p>
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<h5>About Lynn Serafinn</h5>
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<p>Lynn Serafinn is a transformation coach, book promotion coach, radio  host and bestselling author of the book <strong><em>The Garden of the Soul:  lessons from four flowers that unearth the Self.</em></strong> She also works as a  campaign manager for mind-body-spirit authors and has produced two  #1-selling book campaigns, and another #2-selling campaign, in just the  past 4 months. She is also the creator of <a href="http://spiritauthors.com">Spirit Authors</a> to offer training, coaching,  business-building and inspiration for mind-body-spirit authors, whether  established or aspiring. <em><strong>She&#8217;s also in Round 2 of the Next Top  Spiritual Author contest!</strong></em> To check out Lynn&#8217;s video entry, brand  new book proposal and read <span style="text-decoration: underline;">80 pages</span> from her book <em><strong>The Garden  of the Soul</strong></em>, go to <a href="http://www.NextTopAuthor.com/?aid=2016">http://www.NextTopAuthor.com/?aid=2016</a>.  A free gift awaits you when you cast your vote.</p>
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“Imagine a life through which you managed to rise above the fears and concerns that always linger faithfully in the background, haunting us with their song of intended safety, always with the purpose of keeping the status quo. Imagine a life without those messages you tell your Self about what you can’t do, or those [...]]]></description>
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<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;"><strong><em><img src="http://spiritauthors.com/AWE/Images/Patrick-Nepal-Avalanche.jpg" alt="" hspace="10" width="298" height="257" align="left" /></em></strong></span><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;"><em>“</em><em>I</em><em>magine a life through which you managed to rise above the fears and concerns that</em><em> always linger faithfully in the background, haunting us with their song of intended safety, always with the purpose of keeping the status quo. Imagine a life without those messages you tell your Self about what you can’t do, or those messages that diminish the brilliance of who you are in any way. You know the voice I mean.</em> <em> </em> </span></div>
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<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;"><em>&#8220;Imagine that you integrated those voices in such a way that they no longer gripped you but rather informed you about interesting and relevant conditions to pay attention to.</em> </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;"><em>&#8220;And now, as you are no longer held in false constraints, you are free. Free to listen and respond to the wisdom of the moment. Free to wonder what is possible in creating more beauty and dreams. Free to respond to the yearning of your heart that knows that more is possible&#8230;”</em> </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.awakenedwisdom.com/Public/Amazon/booklaunch/index.cfm"><img src="http://spiritauthors.com/AWE/Images/9780984236305-frontcover.jpg" border="0" alt="" hspace="10" vspace="10" width="153" height="231" align="right" /></a>These are the opening words of a most inspiring new book by Patrick Ryan called <strong><em><a href="http://www.awakenedwisdom.com/Public/Amazon/booklaunch/index.cfm">Awakened Wisdom &#8211; A Guide To Reclaiming Your Brilliance</a></em></strong><em>. </em>The first chapter is called “A Life Well-Lived”, and as we read it, we cannot help but think to ourselves, “Yes! I want to know how to have that!” </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">In his book, <em>Awakened Wisdom,</em> Patrick Ryan says a life well-lived is an awakened life, in which we shift away from our “distorted self” and connect with our “Divine Essence”, and allow that wisdom to guide us. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">But how precisely do we <strong>DO</strong> that? </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">Fortunately, Patrick Ryan gives us a formula: the Eight States of an Awakened Life”. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">Patrick explains the “Eight States of an Awakened Life” in great detail in his book <em><a href="http://www.awakenedwisdom.com/Public/Amazon/booklaunch/index.cfm"><strong>Awakened Wisdom</strong></a>. </em>He says, for our awakening to unfold, we must come into a “good state” of relationship with our understanding, our intention, our words, our being, our purpose, our effort, our practice and our doing. And when we are in a “good state” with all these things, we are able to see life clearly, and our decisions and actions in life become purposeful, powerful and meaningful. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">It sounds very inspiring, doesn’t it? It is. But what I really like about Patrick’s book is that it is also a <em>practical</em> manual. There are dozens of affirmations and practical exercises to help you learn and master each of the Eight States, to help you begin to create your own well-lived life. It’s great to see such a spiritual book come down-to-earth so we can actually apply the teachings within our daily lives. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;"><strong><em><a href="http://www.awakenedwisdom.com/Public/Amazon/booklaunch/index.cfm">Awakened Wisdom &#8211; A Guide To Reclaiming Your Brilliance</a> </em></strong>comes out on Amazon on April 20th, 2010. To expand the giving and receiving of this wisdom I am giving away FOUR free audio mediations from my Garden of the Soul Workshop to everyone who buys Patrick&#8217;s wonderful book with the first 24 hours of its release. I&#8217;ve never offered these  meditations before, as they have only ever been available to those who have attended my live Transformation workshops.<br />
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<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">AND&#8230; In addition to my gift, there are over 40 other wonderful gifts being offered by mind-body-spirit teachers, authors, coaches and healers from around the planet when you purchase Awakened Wisdom &#8211; A Guide to Reclaiming Your Brilliance on April 20th. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">AND&#8230; Patrick is giving away an EXTRA special gift of his own: An <strong>AWAKENED WISDOM VIRTUAL EXPERIENCE</strong>, a 2-day global event where you can learn the Eight States of an Awakened Life directly from Patrick himself after you have bought the book. I&#8217;m really lucky because I&#8217;ll be hosting that event!<br />
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<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;"><strong>To find out how you can buy this book on April 20th, </strong></span><strong></strong><strong>claim your free admission to the Awakened Wisdom Virtual Experience, and receive over 40 other gifts, just click <a href="http://www.awakenedwisdom.com/Public/Amazon/booklaunch/index.cfm">HERE</a></strong></p>
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<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">I hope you will join me in celebrating the launch of Patrick Ryan’s wonderful new book, <strong><em><a href="http://www.awakenedwisdom.com/Public/Amazon/booklaunch/index.cfm">Awakened Wisdom &#8211; A Guide To Reclaiming Your Brilliance</a></em></strong>.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">When you&#8217;re on his site, be sure to sign up for a “launch reminder” on his website, and then mark your diary for April 20<sup>th</sup>! </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Verdana,Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif; font-size: small;">I wish you a life well-lived today, and every day.</span></div>
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Yesterday I told you all about the launch of the book Blast Off! by my good friend and client, and fellow Spirit Author, Allison Maslan.
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<p>Yesterday I told you all about the launch of the book <a href="http://myblastoff.com/booklaunch"><em>Blast Off!</em></a> by my good friend and client, and fellow Spirit Author, Allison Maslan.</p>
<p><img class="alignleft" style="margin: 5px;" title="Blast Off book" src="http://www.myblastoff.com/images/blastoff/book_a.jpg" alt="" width="116" height="162" />Well I am pleased to announce that her book came out early this morning and has already been dancing around the top 25 list in “Entrepreneurship” category all morning here in the UK, reaching as high as number 14 so far. I find myself smiling as I see her title on the same list as Michael Gerber’s classic <em>E-Myth Revisited,</em> Gary Vaynerchuk’s recent smash hit <em>Crush It,</em> and several books by UK “Dragons Den” icons, Peter Jones, Theo Paphitis and Duncan Bannatyne. She’s even been AHEAD of several of the “Dragons” over the past couple of hours… giving them a real run for their money… a lot of fun to watch, actually.</p>
<p>Now what’s so great about this is that Allison’s book is a radical shift from many other entrepreneurial approaches. She takes a spirit-based approach, where she helps you connect with your passions, and she actually gives you a step-by-step method to work towards anything from building an entrepreneurial enterprise, to finding a soul mate.</p>
<p>But what I like best about Allison as a person, and a writer, is that she keeps it “real.” She doesn’t talk “over your head” when it comes to talking about business, like so many other books I have read. As a coach and a homeopath, she speaks to you like a real person because her first interest and sole focus (or soul focus?) is people.</p>
<p>If you haven’t yet picked up your copy of Allison’s book, try to do so before the end of the day because when you do, you’ll also be able to pick up 20 great bonus gifts from some of the nicest mind-body-spirit and business professionals on the planet. I’m giving away over 1 hour of free audio book excerpts to help celebrate with her.</p>
<p>To find out how to get the book and the gifts, just visit <a href="http://myblastoff.com/booklaunch">http://myblastoff.com/booklaunch</a>.</p>
<p>What a great start to have her be in the top 20 in the UK, right from the starting gate. I can’t wait to see how far <em><a href="http://myblastoff.com/booklaunch">Blast Off</a> </em>will go, especially when readers in the US start buying the book later today. <img src='http://lynnserafinn.com/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>This is why I LOVE being a book promotion coach!</p>
<p>Enjoy the rest of your day,<br />
Lynn Serafinn<br />
Author, transformation coach, book promotion coach, radio host<br />
Author of mind-body-spirit bestseller <em>The Garden of the Soul: lessons from four flowers that unearth the Self</em></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[By guest blogger Allison Maslan
Note from Lynn: The exciting launch of Allison&#8217;s new book, Blast Off! The Surefire Success Plan To Launch Your Dreams Into Reality is coming THIS Tuesday, January 19. To find out how you can buy the book and receive more than 20 beautiful mind-body-spirit gifts during the launch, go to www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch.
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<p><strong>By guest blogger Allison Maslan</strong></p>
<p><em><strong>Note from Lynn: </strong>The exciting launch of Allison&#8217;s new book, <em><a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch">Blast Off! The Surefire Success Plan To Launch Your Dreams Into Reality</a> </em>is coming THIS Tuesday, January 19. To find out how you can buy the book and receive more than 20 beautiful mind-body-spirit gifts during the launch, go to <a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch">www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch</a>.</em></p>
<p><strong>Are you living your life to the fullest at this moment in time? </strong>Do you have the life that you have always dreamed of? If so, congratulations! Meditate a few moments each day on the goodness that you have experienced from your great fortune. If your answer is no, it is never too late to start. So many of my coaching clients tell me they don&#8217;t reach their goals because they want everything perfect before they move forward.</p>
<p>They are striving for perfection and it is killing them. They want a perfectly clean house, to say the perfect words and to do perfect work at all times. What is the point of &#8220;perfect&#8221; anyway? Pressure filled expectations are a sure way to turn any goal into a ball and chain. Many people resist attempting new challenges or setting new goals because they are afraid they will not perform to their ridiculous level of expectation.</p>
<p>As a result, they give up before they ever begin. Then the feelings of disappointment and failure set in. I started taking modern dance in my 30s. The room was full of young women and men that had been dancing since childhood. My mind was aghast as the dance instructor got in front of the class and proceeded to dance several eloquent steps that we were supposed to immediately mirror. I knew I was in trouble as the class was spinning one way and I was tripping the other way (Picture I Love Lucy and the Rockettes).</p>
<p>Through this experience, I learned to laugh at myself and let go of the notion of doing it perfectly. It was not possible for me to keep up with these experts; and attempting to do so was way too much pressure. Once the light bulb came on that I could do something for the fun of it, I relaxed about the outcome. And wouldn&#8217;t you know it, I was able to perform in several dance presentations and I had a blast.</p>
<p>If you are not putting yourself out there, reaching toward what you really want because you are afraid of not being perfect, you are missing out on the juiciness of your life. It is the non-perfect part that will be most memorable and uniquely you.</p>
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<p><strong>Allison Maslan, HHP, CCH</strong> is a homeopathic physician and the author of <a href="www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch"></a><a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch"><em>Blast Off! The Surefire Success Plan To Launch Your Dreams Into Reality</em></a><em>.</em> As a life and business coach, she helps people create a new business and the best chapter of their lives.</p>
<p><strong>The exciting launch of her book, <em><a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch">Blast Off! The Surefire Success Plan To Launch Your Dreams Into Reality</a> </em>is coming Tuesday, January 19. To find out how you can buy the book and receive more than 20 beautiful mind-body-spirit gifts during the launch, go to <a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch">www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch</a>.</strong></p>
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		<description><![CDATA[5 Easy Ways to Beat the Blues and Feel Joyous this Holiday Season
by Lynn Serafinn, MAED, CPCC
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by Lynn Serafinn, MAED, CPCC</strong></p>
<p>SO sorry this is late! I actually thought I had posted it before Christmas. So, you&#8217;ll be getting 2 posts back-to-back, one today, one tomorrow.</p>
<p>Today we continue our series of tips to help you beat the blues over the holidays:</p>
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<li><strong>Holiday Blues Number 1:</strong><a href="http://lynnserafinn.com/life-coaching-certified-coach-transformation/holiday-survival-guide-part-1-of-5/"> Seasonal Affective Disorder (&#8220;SAD&#8221;) posted 6 December</a></li>
<li><strong>Holiday Blues Number 2:</strong><a href="http://lynnserafinn.com/life-coaching-certified-coach-transformation/holiday-survival-guide-pt-2-of-5/"> Seasonal Illnessess, posted 10 Dec</a></li>
<li><strong>Holiday Blues Number 3: Family &#8220;Dramas&#8221; (in</strong><strong> today&#8217;s post)</strong></li>
<li><strong>Holiday Blues Number 4:</strong> <a href="http://lynnserafinn.com/life-coaching-certified-coach-transformation/holiday-survival-guide-pt-4-of-5-stress-over-money">Stress over Money (coming Monday 28 December)</a></li>
<li><strong>Holiday Blues Number 5: </strong>Feelings of Isolation (coming Thursday 31 December)</li>
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<p><strong>Surviving Family Dramas during the Holiday Season</strong><br />
For many people, visiting with relatives during the holidays is a wonderful experience, because it allows them to reconnect with loved ones they might not ordinarily see during the rest of the year. But for many others, visiting with parents, siblings and extended family can bring out the worst in us. It&#8217;s as if we&#8217;ve travelled back in time. We might be the most powerful and respected person in our professional life, but somehow when we are around our childhood families, we change into blithering idiots. By dint of some inexplicable time-warp, we get caught up in the age-old &#8220;family dramas&#8221; that drive us absolutely batty and leave such a horrible aftertaste when we go back home to our &#8220;adult&#8221; world. Within minutes, we manage to regress into a juvenile version of ourselves that never shows up under any other circumstances. But what is worse is that we find it nearly impossible to get out of the age-old scripts we have played out since our youth.</p>
<p>Small wonder why I chose to speak about this in a Holiday Survival Guide!</p>
<p><strong>Getting &#8220;hooked&#8221; into a role</strong><br />
When we get stuck into a family drama, I call it being &#8220;hooked.&#8221; The reason why we get hooked into our family dramas lies in the term &#8220;drama&#8221; itself. Think of what a drama is. It&#8217;s not merely a judgemental word; it&#8217;s actually a very accurate description of what is taking place. A drama is a complex story with complex characters. And our family dramas are no different. When we are hooked, it means we have taken on the role of one of these characters. And, yes, there are cliché roles in which people tend to be cast. <span id="more-1086"></span>In my course &#8220;Making Friends with the Monsters Under Your Bed&#8221;, I identify some of the typical roles people tend to play, such as &#8220;the good girl&#8221;, &#8220;the black sheep,&#8221; &#8220;the peacemaker&#8221;, &#8220;the clown&#8221;, &#8220;the bully&#8221;, &#8220;the victim&#8221;, &#8220;the martyr&#8221;, &#8220;the loser&#8221;, &#8220;the rebel&#8221;, &#8220;the misfit&#8221;, and so many others. Combine these with the added subtleties of our identity as being the only, the youngest, the eldest or the middle child (or girl/boy), and we find we really have created some pretty complex characters for ourselves.</p>
<p>Just as a drama on the stage or screen is dependent upon the chemistry and interaction (even if explosive) between the characters, so are our family dramas. Think of your favourite television drama or soap opera, and reflect on how some characters just can&#8217;t seem to stop triggering each other, whether passionately, violently or in some other way. So when we find ourselves shouting at someone, &#8220;I&#8217;m never like this except when I get around you,&#8221; it&#8217;s actually true. Our role is like a chemical reaction to the stimulus of coming in contact with another character in the play. Just as a good actor can play many different roles, from villain to lover to hero, with equal expertise when given the right script, so too we play different roles when we are working different &#8220;scripts&#8221; in our day-to-day lives. But the problem is, family scripts tend to get &#8220;written&#8221; very early in our development, and unless we become aware that we, and our family members, are all reading from the same old script year in and year out, we are unlikely to rewrite it.</p>
<p><strong>How to stop it?</strong><br />
Well, the very first thing needed is to be able to recognise when you are hooked in a role. Simply by recognising your &#8220;default characters&#8221; when you slip into them can go a long way to making a shift away from them. How do you recognise it? Basically, if you feel weak, out of control, disconnected, ashamed, inauthentic, misunderstood, or incapable of expressing yourself, you might well be hooked in a role. Anger in and of itself is not necessarily a symptom, because anger can also come from an authentic, self-aware state of consciousness. The key is to be truthful about how connected and loving to your own Self you feel. If you do not feel connected and loving to Self, look deeper to see if you can recognise an underlying role.</p>
<p>Once you recognise and acknowledge you are playing one of your old, disempowering roles, notice what kinds of things trigger you. Don&#8217;t lay the blame (either outwardly or within your own mind) on another person. Remember: they are just as &#8220;hooked&#8221; as you are, and if you get entangled in the blame game, you will get nowhere. Instead, take note of the words and scenarios that tend to get you hooked. Really get to know what your triggers are, and take ownership of your reactions to them. It&#8217;s actually the most empowering thing you can do.</p>
<p><strong>Realigning</strong><br />
Once you start to recognise your role and identify your triggers, the next thing to do is to practise &#8220;stepping aside&#8221; when triggers might be tossed your way. I call this &#8220;realigning.&#8221; If your &#8220;drama partner&#8221; hurls words at you that traditionally get you worked up, learn how to watch the words as if watching a film. One strategy I teach my clients is to use an anchoring word like, &#8220;STOP!&#8221; in your mind when you are on the verge of getting hooked. Silently, tell yourself, &#8220;Stop!&#8221; Some clients also like to use a hand gesture (like touching their thumb to their middle finger, or lightly touching their solar plexus) to bring them to that place of &#8220;stopping&#8221;. Then, take a breath and mentally step out of the &#8220;frame&#8221; of this drama, observing it without reacting.</p>
<p>This technique alone can be enough for some, but for others it only delays the outburst until later, because there is so much pent up anger and resentment that it simply has to come out. The aim of stopping is not to make you stuff your emotions or become submissive. It is to give you a breath, so you can bring the situation into your consciousness, and thus give you the ability to take control of your own choices. But if you are really, really hooked into your own drama, it is vital to explore the subtle forces inside of you that keep you attached to the role you play.</p>
<p><strong>Why we cling to a role even if it makes us unhappy</strong><br />
Here&#8217;s one common example. If we find ourselves locked into a &#8220;victim&#8221; role or any role where we believe ourselves to be the &#8220;wronged one&#8221;, we might unconsciously be gripping very tightly onto that role because it satisfies a part of our identity. Why in the world would we wish to identify with being a victim? Simple. It makes us &#8220;right&#8221; and another person &#8220;wrong.&#8221; &#8220;But,&#8221; you might ask, &#8220;I am not a mean, vindictive person; why would I want to make someone else &#8216;wrong&#8217;?&#8221; The answer is because we feel weak and powerless inside. And when we feel powerless, this feeling of being &#8220;right&#8221; might well be the only glimmer of strength we are able to feel within ourselves. So, it makes perfect sense that we will hold onto this role for dear life because we have become so detached from ourselves we cannot see who we are without it. Basically, we are afraid. We fear our lives, if not our very existence, will become meaningless without the shield of being &#8220;right&#8221;.</p>
<p>And remember, if someone in your life always needs to be right (and it doesn&#8217;t matter if they are playing the role of a victim or a bully), that person is actually living with great fear. And here&#8217;s the key: when you can step outside the drama just long enough to see how much fear that person is feeling, you are far less likely to attack them or fear them yourself. And the instant you have stepped outside the drama, even for a second or two, and felt this compassion for the other person, you have begun to rewrite the script of your family drama. And that is when real relationships can begin.</p>
<p><strong><img class="alignleft" title="candle" src="http://www.create-a-life.co.uk/telecourses/lyf/animated_flame1.gif" alt="" width="100" height="160" />TODAY&#8217;S JOY FORMULA:</strong><br />
<strong>Turning Family Drama into Joy</strong></p>
<p>Here&#8217;s a simple Joy Formula for you to try out this holiday season:</p>
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<li>If you are feeling misunderstood, defensive, victimised or out of control, you are probably &#8220;hooked&#8221;. Don&#8217;t blame yourself or anyone else. Instead, congratulate yourself for recognising it.</li>
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<li>Take note of the &#8220;triggers&#8221; that get you hooked. Again, don&#8217;t fall into the blame game. It only gives your power away. Instead, take ownership for what you choose to do with those triggers.</li>
<li>Use a silent mental anchoring word like &#8220;Stop&#8221; and/or hand gesture to break your pattern of reacting to the trigger.</li>
<li>Breathe!</li>
<li>Mentally step out of the scene and start to rewrite the script. Here are some ideas. Bad script formula: &#8220;You always make me feel x, y, z&#8221;
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<li>Bad script formula: &#8220;You&#8217;re always so x, y, z&#8221;</li>
<li>Good script formulas (in the right tone of voice, of course!): &#8220;I hear that you feel a, b, c when I said/did, x, y, z. What would really help me is to know what you would like me to say/do so you don&#8217;t feel this way&#8221; -OR- &#8220;When you said/did x, y, z, I feel a, b, c. I would really help me is if you said/did q, r, s.&#8221;</li>
<li>Note that what you DON&#8217;T want to say is that the person &#8220;made you&#8221; feel a certain way, or that the person is the problem. Focus on specific things the person said or did, tell them how the words or deed impact you (not making it their fault) and tell/ask them for what you want. This way, the person knows exactly what isn&#8217;t working for you, and you would like from them. Bear in mind that the other person might continue to play out the drama and not react very positively at first. If that happens, just keep rewriting the script. Believe me, if you do it enough times, the drama breaks and you start to speak to each other quite differently.</li>
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<p style="text-align: left;">Being hooked by our unconscious roles and &#8220;old scripts&#8221; can frequently be so deep-rooted that people cannot easily identify them, even though they know something within them is causing much pain and heartache. The process of moving from unconsciousness to clarity and awareness is beyond the scope of this article, but if you want to explore it further, I do invite you to contact me for a consultation by filling in a request form at<a href="http://www.create-a-life.co.uk/free_consultation_request.html"> http://www.create-a-life.co.uk/free_consultation_request.html</a></p>
<p>I hope the information in this article has given you some useful tips for achieving greater joy over the holidays when you spend time with your families.<br />
<strong> </strong></p>
<p style="text-align: center;"><strong>In the next instalment of my &#8220;Holiday Survival Guide&#8221;<br />
I&#8217;ll be talking about how to beat the blues of<br />
STRESS OVER MONEY (!) during the Holiday Season.</strong></p>
<p><strong>Again, it&#8217;s not necessarily what you might think!<br />
Be sure you check it out TOMORROW.</strong></p>
<p><em><strong>Like this article? Share it with others&#8230; AND be sure to leave your comments and your OWN holiday survival tips below. </strong></em></p>
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<div id="_mcePaste" style="overflow: hidden; position: absolute; left: -10000px; top: 2454px; width: 1px; height: 1px;">TODAY&#8217;S JOY FORMULA:<br />
Turning Family Drama into Joy</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s a simple Joy Formula for you to try out this holiday season:</p>
<p>If you are feeling misunderstood, defensive, victimised or out of control, you are probably &#8220;hooked&#8221;. Don&#8217;t blame yourself or anyone else. Instead, congratulate yourself for recognising it.</p>
<p>Take note of the &#8220;triggers&#8221; that get you hooked. Again, don&#8217;t fall into the blame game. It only gives your power away. Instead, take ownership for what you choose to do with those triggers.</p>
<p>Use a silent mental anchoring word like &#8220;Stop&#8221; and/or hand gesture to break your pattern of reacting to the trigger.</p>
<p>Breathe!</p>
<p>Mentally step out of the scene and start to rewrite the script. Here are some ideas. Bad script formula: &#8220;You always make me feel x, y, z&#8221;</p>
<p>Bad script formula: &#8220;You&#8217;re always so x, y, z&#8221;</p>
<p>Good script formulas (in the right tone of voice, of course!): &#8220;I hear that you feel a, b, c when I said/did, x, y, z. What would really help me is to know what you would like me to say/do so you don&#8217;t feel this way&#8221; -OR- &#8220;When you said/did x, y, z, I feel a, b, c. I would really help me is if you said/did q, r, s.&#8221;</p>
<p>Note that what you DON&#8217;T want to say is that the person &#8220;made you&#8221; feel a certain way, or that the person is the problem. Focus on specific things the person said or did, tell them how the words or deed impact you (not making it their fault) and tell/ask them for what you want. This way, the person knows exactly what isn&#8217;t working for you, and you would like from them. Bear in mind that the other person might continue to play out the drama and not react very positively at first. If that happens, just keep rewriting the script. Believe me, if you do it enough times, the drama breaks and you start to speak to each other quite differently.</p>
<p>Being hooked by our unconscious roles and &#8220;old scripts&#8221; can frequently be so deep-rooted that people cannot easily identify them, even though they know something within them is causing much pain and heartache. The process of moving from unconsciousness to clarity and awareness is beyond the scope of this article, but if you want to explore it further, I do invite you to contact me for a consultation by filling in a request form at http://www.create-a-life.co.uk/free_consultation_request.html</p>
<p>I hope the information in this article has given you some useful tips for achieving greater joy over the holidays when you spend time with your families.</p>
<p>In the next instalment of my &#8220;Holiday Survival Guide&#8221;<br />
I&#8217;ll be talking about how to beat the blues of<br />
STRESS OVER MONEY (!) during the Holiday Season.</p>
<p>Again, it&#8217;s not necessarily what you might think!<br />
Be sure you check it out in a few days&#8217; time.</p>
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Allison Maslan, author of Blast off!




Author and Coach Allison Maslan Helps You &#8216;Blast Off&#8217; in 2010
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<h4>Author and Coach Allison Maslan Helps You &#8216;Blast Off&#8217; in 2010</h4>
<p><strong>by Lynn Serafinn, MAED, CPCC</strong></p>
<p><em><strong><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #ffffff; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-family: comic sans ms,sans-serif;"><strong><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><em><span style="font-size: small;"> </span></em></span></span></strong></span></span></span></span></em></strong></strong></em></p>
<p><em><strong><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #ffffff; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-family: comic sans ms,sans-serif;"><strong><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><em><span style="font-size: small;"> <strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;">Like this article? Share it with others</span></em></strong></span></em></span></span></strong></span></span></span></span></em></strong></strong></em></p>
<p><em><strong><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #ffffff; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-family: comic sans ms,sans-serif;"><strong><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><em><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"> </span></em></strong></span></em></span></span></strong></span></span></span></span></em></strong></strong></em></p>
<p><em><strong><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #ffffff; font-size: medium;"><span style="color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><span style="font-family: comic sans ms,sans-serif;"><strong><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"><span style="font-size: medium;"><em><span style="font-size: small;"><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"> <script src="http://w.sharethis.com/button/sharethis.js#publisher=d4f3b811-6a3b-4abc-9151-75bddca85c8e&amp;type=mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-mce-website" type="text/javascript"></script> </span></em></strong></span></em></span></span></strong></span></span> </span></span></em></strong></strong></em> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;">These days, the market is flooded         with self-help books. Unfortunately, all too many of them leave me feeling         dull and lifeless, and they don&#8217;t really &#8220;help&#8221; very much. Half         of the books I come across hit you over the head with &#8220;power talk&#8221;         that makes you feel guilty for not being rich or for getting the occasional         cold (I won&#8217;t mention names, but I have indeed tossed more than one self-help         book across the room because of this!). The other half usually drown you         in lofty &#8220;woo woo&#8221; language that never quite gets down to practical         action. Frustrating! </span> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch/"><img src="http://www.myblastoff.com/images/Blastoff-Book3d.jpg" border="0" alt="" width="150" height="182" align="right" /></a>For         a new self-help book to stand out from the crowd and become keeper in         my library, it would need to be friendly, engaging, fun AND practical.         In other words, it would actually have to HELP me help myself. </span> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;">In her new book <em><a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch/">Blast         Off! The Surefire Success Plan to Launch Your Dreams into Reality</a></em>,         author, coach and registered homeopath Allison Maslan, has achieved exactly         that. Her book is a step-by-step programme to achieving some of the most         challenging and important goals in life: <span id="more-1072"></span>career, relationship, health,         fun/adventure, and of course financial security. </span> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;">In my own experience as a coach, I         know that when people wish to make positive changes in their lives in         any of these areas, they can frequently feel overwhelmed. I know that         there are two keys to helping them get started: 1) make the challenge         feel light and fun and 2) break the challenge into smaller, and not so         daunting, chunks. Maslan uses both of these strategies in her book <a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch/"><em>Blast         Off!</em></a> Her creative and colourful use of language (Daily Launch         Tools, Weekly Flight Assessments, etc) and her easy break-downs of tasks         and targets (Sun-up Scripts, Mini-Feats, etc) give <a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch/"><em>Blast         Off! </em></a>a quality of lightness that helps readers believe they can         and will achieve their goals and aspirations. But most importantly, Maslan         keeps the reader focussed on the bigger picture: life purpose and the         path of your whole life. Thus, unlike other books that might just focus         on one aspect of life, like money, relationships or health, Blast Off!         is a holistic handbook for creating the life you want to live. </span> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;">Written with a charm that immediately       makes you feel at home, Allison avoids the downfalls of so many other self-help       authors (no condescending &#8220;power talk&#8221;, no airy-fairy stuff).       With <a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch/"><em>Blast Off!</em></a>,       Allison Maslan has written an accessible, inviting and honest handbook,       with a sweet, down-to-earth charm and practical action steps. The combination       results in something that is both believable and useful. In other words,       this is one self-help book that actually IS showing you how to help yourself.       <a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch/"><em>Blast Off!, </em></a>along       with the excellent organised companion Workbook, is kind of like having       a life coach in a book. Certainly worth checking out to enhance your New       Year&#8217;s resolutions in 2010.   <strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"> </span></em></strong></span> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;"><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"> </span></em></strong></span></p>
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<h4><strong><em> </em></strong> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;"><em><a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch/"><strong>Blast Off! The Surefire Success Plan to Launch Your Dreams into Reality</strong></a><strong> by Allison Maslan</strong></em><strong> </strong>is coming to Amazon on 19 January 2010. I have joined up with over 20 other mind-body-spirit professionals to help celebrate the release of this special book. Together, we are giving away an array of very special gifts to everyone who purchases the book during its launch. To find out how you can receive these gifts, go to <a href="http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch">http://www.myblastoff.com/booklaunch.</a></span> <span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; font-size: small;"><strong><em><span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS; color: #3aa209;"> </span></em></strong></span></h4>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many thanks to Abbe Armband Henkel, an old High School friend of mine and Facebook fan, for selecting the magic number 61 for last week&#8217;s meditation. This meditation was read on the air on &#8220;Lynn Serafinn&#8217;s Garden of the Soul Radio Show&#8221; on  Wed 4 Nov 2009. If you would like to help me [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>Many thanks to Abbe Armband Henkel, an old High School friend of mine and Facebook fan, for selecting the magic number 61 for last week&#8217;s meditation. This meditation was read on the air on </em><em><a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Lynn-Serafinn/2009/10/21/Ep38-Multidimensional-Healing-and-the-Spiral-Path" target="_blank">&#8220;Lynn Serafinn&#8217;s Garden of the Soul Radio Show&#8221; </a>on  Wed 4 Nov 2009. If you would like to help me write my upcoming book &#8220;The Companion Guide to the Garden of the Soul&#8221; and possibly have your name listed in the acknowledgements of the book, and announced on <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Lynn-Serafinn" target="_blank">my weekly radio broadcast</a>, just select a number from 1-80 and post it in the comments below. </em></p>
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<p><strong><img class="alignleft" title="The Rose" src="http://www.lynnserafinn.com/images/GOTS-Lily.jpg" alt="" width="176" height="160" />Meditation 61: Serernity<em><br />
from &#8220;Lessons from the Lily: the Principle of Being&#8221;</em></strong></p>
<p>Serenity is that state of Being in which we feel most balanced and connected to Self. When we are serene, the ups and downs of life do not disturb the flow of our lives. Some people believe Serenity to be that quality of not being upset by loss or sadness, but actually it is equally true that the serene person is also not imbalanced by what appears to be gain or happiness. When we are full of Serenity, we become able to hold the entire World within our arms, carry everything with equal strength and inner satisfaction. And when we are able to carry all there is, without a view to whether it is positive or negative, we become both inwardly quiet, and outwardly invincible&#8230;</p>
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<p><a href="http://bit.ly/AH6u" target="_blank"><img class="alignright size-medium wp-image-61" title="cover-second-draft-small-border" src="http://lynnserafinn.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/07/cover-second-draft-small-border1-215x300.jpg" alt="cover-second-draft-small-border" width="215" height="300" /></a>In <strong><a href="http://bit.ly/AH6u" target="_blank"><em>The Garden of the Soul</em></a></strong>,  <em></em>the Lily is the perfect example of Serenity, which is an attribute of the Principle of Being. She stands without need for shelter, companion or status, in a continual state of song and praise for the Universe around her. She stands in the exact middle of the Garden, showing a complete balance of Self, reminding us that when we stand in our centre, the path to any destination in life is equidistant. In other words, when we are perfectly serene within our own centre, any differences between what we once thought was joy and sorrow, or positive and negative, vanish completely. When we become experts at returning to our centre, regardless of time or circumstances, we have mastered Divine Serenity.</p>
<p><strong>Enquiries to cultivate this attribute</strong></p>
<p>1. What people, circumstances or thoughts do I allow to knock me off centre?</p>
<p>2. When in the past have I been fully centred and serene?</p>
<p>3. What would my life be like if I were to step fully into my Divine Serenity?</p>
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<p>The above excerpt is from my upcoming book <em><strong>The Companion Guide to the Garden of the Soul.</strong> </em>Have you picked up your copy of the original book <strong><a href="http://bit.ly/AH6u" target="_blank"><em>The Garden of the Soul</em></a> </strong>yet? It&#8217;s an Amazon bestseller in spirituality, mind-body-spirit and self-help. Check it out on <strong><a href="http://bit.ly/AH6u" target="_blank">Amazon</a> </strong>or on the official <strong><a href="http://www.give-receive-become-be.com" target="_blank">book website</a>.</strong><strong><br />
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Lynn Serafinn<br />
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